Describe a time that one of the other moms had the misfortune of ruining a new pair of their own sneakers before they knew better.
There had been a time, not so long ago, when
Rachel—one of the more easygoing moms now sitting confidently on her camp chair—had learned the soccer-field realities the hard way herself. Back then, however, she hadn't yet developed the "practical over pretty" mindset that now defined her mom look. In fact, she could practically hear the sound of her own naïveté echoing back as she saw the new mom saunter onto the field in her gleaming, white Nikes, completely oblivious to the lurking pitfalls of the terrain.
Rachel had also once been excited about new beginnings. It felt like only yesterday when her oldest started soccer—her first kid with his first season. Back when she cared deeply how she presented herself, believing (as so many do in the beginning) that motherhood didn't have to mean sacrificing style. Why
couldn't she look good while wrangling kids on a Saturday morning?
She, too, had made that rookie mistake of thinking soccer practice was somehow—foolishly—a place to impress.
Back then, Rachel had a pair of brand-new, bright pink Adidas sneakers she’d picked up just the day before. They were a fun splurge, a break from her normal worn-in kicks, and she had imagined herself chasing after her kid with vibrant, colorful energy—her sporty-yet-effortlessly-chic image enhanced by the pop of color on her feet. Plus, they were trending, and if she was anything, it was a mom who stayed on top of trends.
She had arrived at the field brimming with misplaced confidence, her leggings perfectly matched and her hair pulled into one of those deliberately messy-but-fun ponytails. She did a quick scan of the other moms, just like the ones here today, and—while she didn’t say it—she had thought to herself,
I’m not going to let this mom thing get me too comfortable.
Maybe they hadn’t noticed, but she certainly did. She felt different, a little bit above it all, looking somehow more
put together, more... with it.
What she hadn’t noticed, though, were the same ominous mud puddles lurking under the innocent-seeming field—just as they did this morning. It had rained heavily the night before, the kind of rain that turned low patches into hidden swamps. But in her excitement to stroll that wide-open grass, to cheer on her son as he learned to kick and dribble, she didn’t bother to stick to the sidelines. Like the new mom today, she was more absorbed in the scene she was creating than the terrain her feet were treading on.
She had ventured a little too far from the makeshift parent gathering, more concerned with snapping a cute Instagram photo than watching where she stepped. One minute she was angling her phone for the perfect shot, and the next? Her foot sank deep into the cold, thick mud—right up to her ankle.
There was a sucking sound as the earth swallowed her sneaker whole; it released with a slurping
POP, leaving her beloved pink Adidas streaked with muck, mud creeping over the fabric in ugly brown trails. She stood there frozen for a heartbeat, mud squishing between her toes.
At first, she had gasped—a quick, sharp intake of surprise—which was immediately followed by a hot wash of embarrassment. When she pulled her foot up, the bright pink now looked like something from a disaster movie. The fresh-out-of-the-box vibrance had all but vanished, replaced by a sodden mess of unforgiving brown earth.
“Oh no.
Oh no!” she had stammered aloud, looking down in absolute horror at the ruined shoes.
Worse, as she tried to shake off the mud, she soon realized that mud was
not easily shaken. The more she fussed with it, the more her other foot slipped, until she lost balance completely and found herself collapsing backward onto the moist ground. Her leggings weren't spared either, now streaked with the same sticky filth.
The other moms had seen the fall, of course. They rushed forward, some with concern, but others—with far more experience—already wearing knowing half-smiles, the kind that said
we’ve all been there, honey. They hadn’t laughed at her outright, but there was no mistaking the quiet amusement in their eyes.
As one of them handed her a towel that had probably been in the back of her car for months—a little frayed and smelling vaguely of old juice boxes—Rachel had shaken her head, feeling both annoyed and strangely liberated.
“Wait,” she’d said, letting out a reluctant chuckle despite herself, “Is this... part of the initiation?”
“Yup,” one of the moms—her name might’ve been Linda—had replied, a grin breaking openly across her face. “Welcome to soccer mom life. You’ll learn quick to leave the good shoes at home.”
Rachel had laughed then too, truly laughed, and while that day had come with a good dose of embarrassment—and the complete ruin of her $80 sneakers—it was also the day she had learned something far more valuable: style was great, but survival? Survival was better. In the years that followed, her shoes became more practical, her sense of humor more flexible, and her knowledge of muddy fields as deep as the puddles that snuck up on her that day.
And now, watching from the sidelines as the fledgling stylish mom walked confidently toward her inevitable fate, Rachel exchanged a glance with some of the other moms.
That glance. The one that said,
We could say something, but she needs to learn it like we all did.
Initiations, after all, weren’t given. They had to be earned—with a pair of ruined shoes and just the right amount of humility to go with it.